Being happy seems to be a desire, but also a concern of the large majority of the people. Why do we want so much to be happy? What motivates us and makes so desperately look for it, and it is really possible?
Apparently it is!
The author Leon Bormans wrote a book entitled ’’The World Book of Happiness ".
His conclusions are based on research and discoveries of the world experts in the happiness psychology who have analyzed thousands of people from different areas of the world.
These are the main recommendations of Leon Bormans to get the happiness:
1. Accept what you have!
The happy people have modest levels of expectations and aspirations, wants what they can obtain, while unhappy people fail to get what they want. Also, happy people know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises.''
This is because they do everything they can to meet realistic goals and are satisfied with what they have.
2. Enjoy what you do!
The happy people do what they like and like what they do and do not do things for money or fame''.
3. Live for today!
’’The happy people live for the present and have the positive ways of thinking. If you can not be happy today, what makes you think that tomorrow will be different?''
Do not insist on the past, on things that have not worked properly or on the previous failures. In the same way, do not dream about an idealized future which does not exist or do not worry it did not happen yet.
4. Choose the happiness!
You must not be afraid to take a step back and reassess your goals. Bormans, propose us an approach, as simple it is, as effective: '’Imagine your life as a story that you can change and adjust as you go on. This flexible approach requires positive thinking and un open mind. You have to choose always to be happy.''
5. Relationship
’’We all live the happiness in relationship with other people. We must remember that just as others people can make us happy, as well we are "other people" to someone else. Try to value the people who are important to you.''
Related to this recommendation the romanian ancient wisdom has a well-known saying ’’behave with other people the way you want to behave them with you.''
6. Be always busy!
’’If you want to be happier you should develop a sociable personality, and be a great lover of leaving the house''.
According to research, the active people, busy, sociable, are the healthiest and happiest from the society.
7. Do not compare!
’’You must focus on the goals and dreams that you have in order to enjoy your own success.''
It is true that it is not good to compare to avoid being miserable’’ and ’’to not compare apples to pears'', therefore it is the best to compare to ourselves from yesterday. Comparison and competition are useful only in certain situations.
8. Be yourself!
As you should not compare with the others, it is important to not worry about what others think about the way you are.
’’The happy people are spontaneous, natural and real. They say what they think and what they feel, and are not worried about what others think about them.''
Whenever we live in fear that others will say something wrong or untrue about us we live in an imaginary repression and we will not be able to be present for the moment, which would keep us from enjoying the life.
9. Do not worry!
’’The happy people do not worries and recognize that 90% of worries are not fulfilled. Leave unnecessary worries away !''
10. Get Organized !
Perhaps you envy those with a bohemian personality and ’’get carried away by the wave’’, but do not cheat yourselves.
’’The happy people plan and organize, have objectives and a goal well defined. You can get just what you want or dream, if you know exactly what you want or dream''.
In other words, from idea to project there is a plan to run.
When we do not know what we really want it is difficult to take appropriate and effective decisions for us.
11. Think positive!
The Feelings and the negative emotions creates psychical discomfort and psychological stress.
’’The happy people eliminate all the negative things and look only the beautiful and positive side of things''.
In other words, says Leo Bormans, is need to move from a negative perspective, the one with the half empty glass, to the perspective with the half full glass, and also put into practice the optimism. The optimism is defined, in his opinion, as the natural self-defense mechanism of the mind against depression.
12. Appreciate the happiness!
’’Happiness can be learned, and finding a purpose in life may facilitate your way. The happy people appreciate and realize that the happiness will prolong their life.
In conclusion, the implementation of all 12 recommendations of Leo Bormans, in my opinion, could be the main parts of a holistic personal development program giving the person another view on life, on his person, on the others and the relationships with them. That is why I chose to submit them, in summary, as the structure of the program mentioned above.
Do you believe that it is difficult to put into practice what Leo Bormans recommends?
It only remains you to try to see if it really works …!
Aura Şutaru
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