A: Firstly, I allow myself to tell you that you can not change your partner as much as you would like it because it is a matter of personal behavior change and action. Secondly, I suggest you do not confuse the person with her behavior and the feelings with their manifestation. Feelings are something inside of the person and their expression is related to the quality of the relationship and is expressed through verbal, non-verbal behavior, attitude, positive or negative messages, valuing etc.
Talking frankly with your partner may find together a solution to solve, and if, somehow, you fail you can use the specialized support.